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Perception is something I struggle with a lot in life. I think perception for many has become more important than truth or reality. An event can happen, two people could experience it and have two very different reactions to it.
I think it is important to remain as balanced about things as possible. Give someone else your life and they may think it is amazing life, give it someone else and they may think it is a pretty rubbish life. When someone says life is a bit rubbish try not to accept it at face value, try and find out why it is rubbish in their opinion and the same with those that say they have an amazing life.
Sometimes it can seem pretty hard to change your life or circumstances; sometimes it’s easier just to change your perception of it. Try in life not to get carried away with emotion and other people’s emotions. Try and work out fact from fiction and make your own opinion about it.
Don’t believe the hype
It’s like with the media and the press when they hype TV programmes, films, sporting events etc. They want you to get carried up in the hype, but you have to remember in life that the reality very rarely lives up to the hype and that the great things in life really don’t need hyping. Normally the more something is hyped, the more it needs it and what is being hyped isn’t actually that good.
So I want to encourage everyone to take a step back today and really think about what you have seen, read and experienced. How do you feel about what you have experienced and why do you feel like that? Is it because of perception or reality? There are many people who are glass half full and many people that are glass half empty people in this world. I choose to say that both statements are perspective and the reality is – if someone has just poured something out of the glass, it is half empty but if someone has got an empty glass and filled it half way, it is half full.
Lets all be reality hunters and strive to find the events that caused the perceptions to happen in the first place.
I have to admit to checking my Facebook feed about 50 million times a day. At the end of each day I would hate to think how much time of my day had been spent reading it. Every once in a while I learn something about a friends life but for the most its words and photos that I won’t remember tomorrow.
I use to be guilty of putting a post or update up just to see how many likes I got. I think for many people Facebook is a place to show off, to validate their own existence or to try and make them look better than other people. They don’t care what names and what people like their status they only care about the number of likes.
Why should a post about me going to work at Wembley Stadium get more likes than a post saying that I am having a good afternoon with my family? At the end of the day or the end of your life what is more important? To me I would say its spending time with your family. I think we need to start liking people living happy and fulfilled lives and not just people showing off.
For me life is about relationship and I think Facebook should be the same, the more you care for others, hopefully the more they will care for you. Instead of just stalking people online or just liking statuses all the time lets work on our relationships, as clicking a button does not a relationship make.
Don’t take peoples Facebook accounts at face value. A Facebook profile for many is a projection of what they hope or want life to be. So don’t just like what they say, engage with what they are saying and connect with them properly so you know how they are really feeling. Lets enjoy the good moments together and be there for the hard times and lets know how people are really feeling.
Recently I had a huge cull of friends on Facebook and it was easier than I thought it would be. I had lots of people on there that I hadn’t seen or spoken to in years and is that really a friend? Yes I may get a lot less likes to the posts I put up from now on but after re-evaluating, that is not what I am on Facebook for.