Happy Christmas

Around the world at this time people are greeting each other with the words “Happy Christmas” or “Merry Christmas.” From strangers in the street, to those nearest and dearest to them, people are going out of their way to greet each other with festive greetings. There is a feel good factor in areas and places where Christmas is celebrated, however at this time we need to make sure we don’t forget the people for whom it is an unhappy time.

This time of year can make people feel lonelier than they already may be feeling and can make people dwell on sadder times than happier times. Christmas is an emotional time which can bring up a lot of different memories for different people, so don’t always assume that it is a happy time for your friends, family, colleagues and neighbours.

Just by someone saying Happy or Merry Christmas doesn’t mean it will be a happy or merry one for him or her. Lets keep an eye out for these people and make sure they don’t get forgotten about this Christmas. Lets make sure they know that they are loved and thought about. If you feel led to, why not invite them over to your home during the season. If you are talking to them in the street or on the phone take those extra minutes to really see how they are and make sure they know that they are in your thoughts.

I for one really enjoy Christmas with my family and I know millions of others around the world do too. To me it is a really special time that I really appreciate. It is one of my highlights of the year. I think it is a time of year we should enjoy and celebrate as much as we can. You shouldn’t feel bad or be made to feel bad for enjoying the season. We just need to remember those less fortunate or those who can’t enjoy this time for whichever reason.

Lets do our best to help as many people as possible have the best Christmas they possibly can.

Before I go on this edition of the blog I would like to take this opportunity to thank all the readers and followers of this website for your support this year. I also hope that this time of year is the best it can be for you and that it is even better than any Christmas you have ever known before.

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Friend Agency

I was watching a programme recently on TV that got me thinking about friendship. What is friendship? How important is friendship? And do humans needs friends?

Some people judge friendship by the amount of time they spend together, spend talking to each other or thinking about each other. I personally think that friendship is a connection, which has to be a two way street. A friend is someone you care about and want the best for. Someone that you think about and someone you want to keep in touch with.

I’m not sure if I would jump to the word need but I think there is something inside many of us that craves friendship, yet sadly many people live without friendship in their lives. Nobody goes around with a sign saying I need or I want a friend, but I believe there are many of us out there would like a new friend or want more friends. To have friends is to feel supported and to know when things aren’t going right you have someone to talk to.

I don’t think all friends are for life, if many at all, but I believe we should treasure the time they are in our lives and always be ready to make a new friend. Even if you don’t need a new friend there are many out there that do.

I think if we as a world were more open to creating more friendships then the world would be a much happier place. Never dismiss the impact of friendship, as I think it can help change the way you view yourself, the world and your place in it.

To me friendship is a bit like dating. Now that sounds a little wrong but hear me out… In this day and age when you become an adult it’s very hard to know where to go to find someone to date and when you do go out how do you know who is single or who is interested in a relationship? Does this sound a bit like making friends? Don’t know where to go to find some or how to find out who wants to be your friend?

One of my many business ideas in my head (when I say many I mean hundreds) is instead of starting a dating agency to start a friend agency. I think if someone could make finding friends easier people would pay money for that.

Friendships are normally formed through common interests – but is that enough to sustain a good friendship that stands the test of time? Like eharmony where you have to go through many profiling questions and then you are presented with matches based on compatibility, could something similar be done to match you up with people that are likely to be good friends for you? As if a friendship is just based around common interests if your interests changed would you still be friends.

To end with this week I have two questions – will anyone steal my business idea? But the second and most important – will you be a friend to someone who needs it?

Facebook

I have to admit to checking my Facebook feed about 50 million times a day. At the end of each day I would hate to think how much time of my day had been spent reading it. Every once in a while I learn something about a friends life but for the most its words and photos that I won’t remember tomorrow.

I use to be guilty of putting a post or update up just to see how many likes I got. I think for many people Facebook is a place to show off, to validate their own existence or to try and make them look better than other people. They don’t care what names and what people like their status they only care about the number of likes.

Why should a post about me going to work at Wembley Stadium get more likes than a post saying that I am having a good afternoon with my family? At the end of the day or the end of your life what is more important? To me I would say its spending time with your family. I think we need to start liking people living happy and fulfilled lives and not just people showing off.

For me life is about relationship and I think Facebook should be the same, the more you care for others, hopefully the more they will care for you. Instead of just stalking people online or just liking statuses all the time lets work on our relationships, as clicking a button does not a relationship make.

Don’t take peoples Facebook accounts at face value. A Facebook profile for many is a projection of what they hope or want life to be. So don’t just like what they say, engage with what they are saying and connect with them properly so you know how they are really feeling. Lets enjoy the good moments together and be there for the hard times and lets know how people are really feeling.

Recently I had a huge cull of friends on Facebook and it was easier than I thought it would be. I had lots of people on there that I hadn’t seen or spoken to in years and is that really a friend? Yes I may get a lot less likes to the posts I put up from now on but after re-evaluating, that is not what I am on Facebook for.