3-bed home in Saltash for sale

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A few years ago I brought my first home. Now after securing work in Wiltshire, I am now selling my house in Saltash, which is in the county of Cornwall. Selling this house will enable my family to start a new chapter as I change jobs and careers. They say you can sell anything on the Internet, well this is me trying! I’ve never tried to sell anything this big before and already have an Estate Agent who are marketing the property, but as the saying goes every little helps, right? We live in a world where it can only take a few people sharing something for it go viral, so why can’t that be my house-selling project?

Family home

This house was more than just a home to my family. It is the place where we had our first child, where our first child took her first steps, a place which was our first home as a married couple. More than this though, it was a place where we did life, a place where we laughed, cried, achieved things and a place where even the mundane bits of life will forever be memorable to me.

First time buyer or investor

The Estate Agent will do a cracking job selling the house, but I wanted to come on to my blog to sell you the home. My wish now is that a first time buyer will see it as a great place to start life and to get on the first rung on the property ladder, or an investor will see it as a buy to let investment and enable another family to be able to rent a property in the town, as there aren’t many like ours available in Saltash.

Everything I am doing is just to get one more view on the Rightmove and Zoopla pages for our house, one more viewing and hopefully a good offer that we can accept. All of what I am doing might be for nothing and it might be the Estate Agent that gets the sale, but I just couldn’t sit back and not try to help. To me if you have wanted something to happen it has always been about making it happen. I don’t like leaving things to other people and always want to be working the hardest.

Buying happiness

I can’t promise happiness from buying our home, I can only share the stories of happiness and love that we have experienced since moving in. I will miss the house dearly when we move. I didn’t expect to be moving this quickly from it but as this chapter ends quicker than I thought it would, it will always be a chapter I look back on fondly.

I may not be an Estate Agent or a sales person but this is me trying to ask for some help with our journey and to offer something to somebody that I think will make their life better. So why not come and buy yourself 4 walls and a roof, but most importantly buy a new chapter for me and for you:

http://www.zoopla.co.uk/for-sale/details/42064399?search_identifier=0ef70456629a14ec4db41ae4ba927010#X46BYFx45UHBPaXh.97

 

Camping Holiday

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Last week we had our first family camping holiday. My wife and I used to go camping a little bit before we started a family but it is always something we have wanted to do again, so took the plunge and booked a week in St. Ives, to camp with our one year old. Although camping with a one year old is a bit trickier, I was so glad we did it, as it was such a fun week.

Timing

Thankfully we timed our arrival to the campsite just right as it was during her nap, so we were able to get a lot of the putting up of the tent work done whilst she was asleep, which made things a lot easier. The first night was a challenge for our little one year old to settle to sleep, but from day 2 she slept without any fuss. This all made the holiday less stressful and although you have to adapt a bit when you are away from your home comforts, I enjoyed the challenges it presented.

The best thing about the campsite was that it was next to a beach, so we had our first beach day with our little one and although she was a little apprehensive at first, she really enjoyed it and going to the beach became a highlight of the holiday. The space and freedom for our little one to toddle and crawl around was brilliant. In general life you just don’t get the expanses of space and lack of cars etc. so it was fun to just watch her enjoy it and adventure in it.

Outwell tents

One thing I can’t speak highly enough of was our Outwell Alabama 7p tent. Although there were only 3 of us the huge living space and the huge space at the front made it fun and pleasant to be in the tent, as it wasn’t too cramped and everyone had space. A 7-man tent may seem overkill for 3 people but it was perfect, plus the tent had lots of other great features, like roll away sleeping compartments. They may be more expensive than the rest but you are buying quality when you buy an Outwell tent and that is what we got.

For anyone considering taking a young one camping I would encourage them to do so. Yes it’s a bit more challenging and takes a bit more planning but we had a great week and created some fun memories that will last a lifetime.

 

What are you doing this weekend?

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This must be the most popular question asked in offices around the world today. Normally the answers are “not much” or something big and exciting. It seems that if you aren’t doing one or the other, it isn’t worth mentioning. I personally think it is a shame that we seem to only be able to answer in one extreme or the other.

My favourite answer to that question used to be “spending time with my wife” now it is “spending time with the family.” When did people start deeming these things not exciting enough to talk about? When did people think they weren’t worth mentioning? When did people get embarrassed to say these things?

I live for and love the weekends. My weekends are usually the best part of my week. Because I enjoy time with my family so much, I have started scaling back what I do outside of work to make sure I get as much time with them as I possibly can.

What we are doing isn’t important to me. It’s the spending the time together away from other things and distractions, which is the most important thing to me. Just spending time with my family is doing something. When you are asked if you are doing something, you don’t have to be doing an event or going somewhere in order to be doing something.

Don’t get me wrong I do like going out and doing things, but they are always more special if I am doing them with my family. Sharing an experience and having a joint memory is so much better than sharing a story later with someone who wasn’t there to experience it with you.

I hope I can encourage other people to be loud and proud about just enjoying spending time with friends and family over weekends. Don’t feel the rush to have to show off about what you are doing on a weekend, don’t feel like you have to. The truth in many situations is that the ones showing off would rather have the situation you have.

Moving on

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This week I have been helping my dad pack up the old family home, which a sale was recently agreed on. We moved in to this house when I was 1 and I grew up in that house. Last night as I looked around the empty house for the final time, the memories of all the great things that happened in that house came flooding back to me and really moved me more than I thought it would.

Realisation

Selling it was the right thing to do and a decision that was taken some time ago but it wasn’t until last night that the realisation hit, the realisation that it was no longer our family home and we would never be going back in. Even though I hadn’t lived there in a while and I have a new place I call home, that house was still part of me. Yes no one can take the memories from me and it is the people that make the home, not the bricks but it is sad that the physical representation of it all is no more.

Today the removal vans are probably starting to roll up as I type this and a new family are probably deciding upon who gets each room. I just hope this family loves the house, that the rooms are filled with joy and laughter, but most of all that moving to our old home leads to a great period in their life.

Attached

It is strange how attached we can become to buildings and it is strange how our emotions work. Emotions can make moving on tricky as they aren’t constant. Some days you can feel fine about something and you feel like you have it all under control, then some days you feel sad about something and feel like you don’t have it under control.

The things I try and do are – let myself be upset and feel the emotion and once I have done that, to focus on the positives for the future. Sometimes you may not want to or be able to see any positives, but if you really try you can always find some positives.

I think I have got at least one more house move to make in my future but I know that the experience of the last few weeks will help me through it. The one thing I have to keep telling myself is – to associate the memories not with the buildings but with the people that were in them.

What to do if you really value time over money

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I see so many people in my travels, who profess to not wanting to have to work so many hours and wanting more time for themselves, their families and to pursue their passions. I am here to say if you do really want these things, there is a way and it has nothing to do with a get rich quick scheme.

Choices

My wife and I made the choice that whilst our daughter is growing up, that one of us wouldn’t work and one would stay at home to raise her, as that is what we valued above everything else. We didn’t just profess to want it; we went out and did it.

We did it sensibly and now have more truly disposable income than we had when we had two salaries coming in and that is without promotions or pay rises. We just for the first time in our lives started to budget properly. You can find out about how we did it here:

https://adamsibley.wordpress.com/2014/10/31/budget/

One thing I think a lot us need to learn is how to be content with earning less. We need to get out of this culture of working just to spend money. Instead of working every hour, live the life you proclaim you want to by investing your time and not your money.

Do things unapologetically

If it is truly money that motivates you and you enjoy working, the pursuit of money and buying the latest things is nothing to be ashamed of, just own it. Just decide what you want and go after it unapologetically. Don’t fall in to this trap of thinking you have to say you either want more time with your family, or you want to do better in your career, if these are things which aren’t true to you.

Sadly in life it is very rare that you can actually have a family life and go after a career and riches, so decide which you want and go after it whole heartedly, as it is the only way you will truly get somewhere and be truly happy.

Nothing is forever

Just remember that nothing is forever and you can always change your mind, if you do have a change of heart just have the confidence to go with it and not deny it. Also life can be about seasons and just because you are prioritising money or family at the moment, that can all change in the future when situations change.

Why have so many people bought into the lie?

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The one thing in this world that really saddens me as how so many people have bought into the lie that we all need the fancy house and the fancy car, that we all need to work every hour we can, that we need to get big mortgages, finance options and loans so we can have everything we are told we should want.

The simple way to afford everything and not work yourself in to the ground is to buy everything you want. Yes that might sound strange but I am not kidding. If you don’t take out loans, finance, credit or leases, you never owe anybody anything and never have to worry about working to pay them off. When me and my wife want something we first make sure that we do want it and discuss why we want it, we then try and find it for the best price and then we pay for it up front which sometimes means saving up. Paying for everything up front also makes everything much cheaper.

Managing your finances

At the beginning of every month we look at the money coming in and then do our budget. We budget for all the expenses of the month and then with any leftover we decide what we want to do with it. This means we don’t go in to debt and we always know what we want and what we can afford, we never say “we are not sure if we can afford that or not.” Trying to raise the money you have coming in can be hard and out of your control but the money you spend is completely in your control and it is very easy to cut your bills. This month alone my wife and I were able to save hundreds by simply cancelling contracts, renegotiating contracts and changing providers.

Being a parent now myself I am seeing other parents being forced back to work to keep up with payments and the lifestyle they lead. I see so many children being looked after by grandparents now during the week as both parents are back at work full time before their child is even one. It seems to be a declining trend now in stay-at-home parents but I am so thankful that my wife is a stay-at-home mum. It was so important to us for our child to have one parent at home as we truly believe this is the best investment we can make in our child.

What really matters

Our child doesn’t care what house we live in, our child doesn’t care if her clothes are hand-me-downs, our child cares about our hugs, our smiles and our time. Time with our child is worth more than any amount of money to us or any possession we could buy.

Don’t let society and media tell you what you have to have or implant in your brain that you want something. Get what you truly want out of life, if you truly want to be at home to raise a family you will find a way to make it happen, it is never too late to make that change.

Letter to my daughter

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Last year I became a father, which was the greatest moment in life. My wife and I were gifted with the most important job we will ever have, the chance to positively impact the life of someone who we think is so special. Our baby girl has unlimited potential, it is now our task to make sure she has the best life ever and that she is ready for anything that comes her way. We want her life to be full of possibility, opportunity, happiness and fulfillment.

Dear Lucy,

I am so proud to be your dad; nothing you could ever do would stop me from loving you, believing in you and thinking the world of you. Along with your mum I want to be your biggest fan, I want to be the one that teaches you right from wrong and that gives you the building blocks to achieve great things in life.

I want to so much for you. I want you to be dedicated and to be passionate about the things you care about and want to achieve. It is those that are dedicated and passionate that achieve great things in this world and I hope I can inspire you to be both of these things.

I want to give you the space to find your own dreams and then do anything I can to make them come true. I don’t want to live my life through you; I want to live my life with you. I can’t wait to find out about the things you are in to and enjoy doing. I will never laugh at anything you are in to or any dream you have regardless of how different or big it is.

I want you to know that you can talk to me about anything; I want you to know that I will never judge or condemn you. I will always listen and advise when I can. I won’t get angry or hurt when you don’t follow my advice as I think it is important sometimes for you to have your own opinion, to try and fail, to learn and to sometimes know more than I do.

The one hope I have for you is confidence. I want you to have confidence to be your own person, to not be led by the crowd, to have your own identity and to know who you are. I want the highest self-esteem and self worth for you. You are precious and worth more than anything else ever invented.

More than anything I want to do life with you, the ups and the downs. I want you to know you are beautiful inside and out. I want you to not let anyone bring you down and to put you off pursuing your dreams. Don’t lead the life others are leading or the life they want you to lead, keep hold of your dreams and passions – don’t give them up for anyone.

You’ve changed our world and I know you will change this world for others. I can’t wait to watch you develop in to the amazing adult I know you will be.

Love

Your Dad

The Baby Business

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When you are having a baby the one thing the world wants you to buy in to is how expensive it is. The marketplace wants you to feel the need to spend hundreds of pounds on travel systems, changing stations, toys, clothes, cribs etc. etc. They want this to feel normal. For some this feeling puts them off having children, but I don’t think it would stop many that truly wanted to have a baby.

I however, want the world to stop buying in to this atmosphere, which is driven by the major companies. I would love to live in a world where buying second hand, accepting hand me downs and doing things on a budget were seen as the norm. It is the baby industry, which has driven us as a society to be working parents, with families seeing no other alternative than for both parents to be working just so they can afford all the things they think they need.

Investments

As a parent I want all my investments in my child and family to be about love and not money. My wife and I feel strongly about one of us being a stay at home mum or dad for our child until they have reached school age. We believe this is more important for her development than anything we can buy for hundreds of pounds. We know we have bills to pay, so one of us will always work but we still value time over any financial reward of being away from the house and being away from our child.

Yes we get pram envy when we see people pushing the latest and fanciest ones in the street, yes we see toys and clothes that we would love to buy for our child but what of these things is our child going to remember? I would rather invest money in her long term future like university than things she will only use for such a small portion of her life and have no recollection of when she is older, except for when she looks back at photos.

Shop around

My wife and I make sure our daughter has everything she needs and that we want her to have, we just make sure we get things for the best price. We shop around, look for deals, buy second hand and see what we can pick up for free. Just because you can afford something brand new doesn’t always mean it is a good investment and just because you can’t afford something brand new doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have it.

My wife and I proudly only use cloth nappies on our child because not only are they a great money saver, they are better for her skin and much more beautiful than disposable nappies. Yes they may be more work but that it isn’t a factor in our decision making process, as we just want to do what is best for our child. Best for your child isn’t always buying everything and buying it brand new and this is what I want the world to understand.

Ideas

Last weekend my wife and I made a sensory space for our daughter using ideas we found on the Internet, a box, tin foil and Christmas tree lights. It didn’t cost us anything to make yet our daughter loved it and I think it will aid her development. In this internet age it is easier than ever to get deals and ideas, so there is no excuse to be lazy and just buy the first thing you see.

My advice for this week would be if you have children is to enjoy them, want the best for them but don’t get stressed and worried about affording things as everyone with a bit of effort can get the best for their child.

Know your audience

This week if you follow Premier League football (soccer) here in England you will not have been able to avoid the Diego Costa situation. For all those that don’t follow the Premier League or know Diego Costa, he is one of the top strikers in the world and plays for Chelsea. Diego is a player who plays on the edge and plays the game in an aggressive manner. Last weekend he hit an opposing player twice in the face, was not sent off and in the aftermath managed to wind up an opposing player enough to get that player sent off.

Match of the Day

One of the biggest TV shows about football in the UK is called Match of the Day and it is broadcast on the BBC, which the UK population funds through a licence fee. Match of the Day is a TV programme that is an institution and is one of the oldest shows still running about football, it is a show which is broadcast on Saturday nights and Sunday mornings, it is a show watched by children and families.

When the pundits on Match of the Day had their say on the incident involving Diego Costa they basically passed it off as part of the game. I ask this week – what kind of message is that to send to children? I think this programme has completely forgotten it’s audience; it’s place and who funds it. It has got caught up in trying to create controversy for social media and needs to take a long hard look at itself.

It’s about reaction

It is not Diego Costa’s job to be liked or to play within the rules. He is paid to win football matches for his team. It is up to the referees and media to decide how they are going to react to it. One BBC radio station said that ‘Costa needs referees to keep him in check.’ Again I think this is wrong, it is up to Diego Costa to play the game in the way he wants, it is the referees job to apply the laws of the game.

I have no qualms with late night football shows or football shows on commercial channels and subscription channels reporting on the incident in anyway they see fit as they are trying to get viewers to make money, but the BBC shouldn’t be hunting attention in the same way.

Media

Media is one of the most powerful influencers on society, especially young people so we need to be careful about how we report things. How the media treat the game today will impact on how youngsters watching the game now will play the game in 10 and 20 years to come, it will shape the next generation of British footballers. This is why not just for today but for the future we need to think long and hard about the way we represent the game.

A special day

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I recently surprised my wife with a day out in the county we live in, which is in the south west of England called Cornwall. I thought long and hard about the types of thing she would like to do and planned an itinerary for the day, to try and give her the most fun day possible.

I think it is important when you are in a relationship to stop and do things like this from time to time. There are many tasks and activities in day-to-day life that can take up your time and take your focus away from your relationship and your loved one. So every chance we get we should make time for our loved ones and put them first. There is nothing like making someone feel loved and feeling loved by your partner.

Investment

I think one of the best investments you can make in life is in to your family and I for one am going to try and invest as much as I can in them. The more you invest your time, energy and money in to other things the stronger they will become and the weaker your family will be. I think when you are doing things in life you should always keep your family in mind. You might not always have the same job, the same friends, the same house and the same amount of money but if you invest in your family you will always have a strong unit to fall back on for love and support.

In life sadly there are too many people who never put anyone else first. I think it is important if we are to be a caring and loving society to have more people who are willing and able to put others first. We need more selfless acts carried out in this world, where people do nice things without wanting anything in return.

Creating memories

By having a day away with my wife doing things we wouldn’t normally do, we created memories and instead of it just being a run of the mill day we will always look back on it with fondness.

I am blessed to live in such a nice, picturesque county but the trap I fall in to like many others is – not taking advantage of it. We are one of the top holiday destinations in the UK for tourists so I think we should get the best of it too. Going on holiday or having a break doesn’t have to be about getting aboard a plane or heading for some exotic location. To me a holiday is just time away from the home to enjoy, relax and recharge.

So lets try and make as many days in our lives as special as we can.