How do you find what your biggest passion is?

I am one of these people that have lost of dreams and aspirations. The problem is, I want to achieve them all at the same time and I struggle to decide in my head what I want to accomplish the most. In my head what I want the most, seems to change on a daily if not hourly basis.

I work in media and I love media but media is such a huge industry with thousands upon thousands of job types and sectors. So just having something I love hasn’t made it any easier. There are so many cool jobs in media and so many would be fun to do. Creating TV, Radio, Films, videos etc is just great fun and it takes so many different skills, talents and people to create all these things, each as vital as the other.

The journey tests the passion

Some times to get to your passion, you have to do things you aren’t as passionate about. A lot of the times there are no short cuts to the top and there are paths you need to go down first. These journeys really test how passionate you are about the end goal.

To get to your passion you have to be prepared to let things go and remove the stuff in your life, that is taking your time but not getting you closer to whatever you are passionate about. A difficult balance to find is helping others whilst not slowing down your journey towards your passion. So many people in life will want your time, your thoughts and your energy and it is only fair to give it to them but at times it can also be draining.

In awe

I am always in awe of people who have found what their number 1 passion is and have made it a reality. Some people have made incredible things a reality, some people haven’t made it but know where they want to go. Life has so many people that have made it, some that haven’t made it and some that don’t know they have made it. I want to be someone in life that did the thing that made them the happiest and someone that has no regrets to look back on later in life. I can’t wait until the day I can come on here and share with you all that I found my biggest passion and I achieved the thing in my career that was my biggest passion.

Hard work creates opportunities

If you are looking for an opportunity, the best way to get your hands on one is through hard work. The more you do, the more opportunities you expose yourself to. The people that give out opportunities are more likely to hand those opportunities out to those people that work hard, so make sure you are working hard.

I have been afforded many great opportunities in life, commentating at Wembley stadium, speaking at the House of Commons, writing for a national newspaper, coaching my team to a national final and the list goes on. Each of these I can honestly say I worked hard to achieve. None of them came easy and I was beyond thankful for each opportunity I was given but I believe I deserved all of them. That’s the thing; with every opportunity, I wanted to know that I deserved it and that I wasn’t just given it.

Unexpected

Sometimes opportunities don’t come quickly, sometimes they come from unexpected places and at times you don’t expect. It’s like this week I have been asked to be a trustee for one of the best theatre projects in the local area. I wasn’t expecting this opportunity and I have never worked with them before, but because of my hard work in the community they have found out about me and think that I can add something to their board.

When this week started I had no clue this offer would come in and was not expecting it, but it felt so rewarding to receive. The great thing with this opportunity is that it presents another chance to get stuck in and work hard in an organisation that creates opportunities for others. Because I have had so many amazing opportunities I want to do all I can to help create opportunities for others and be in a position where I can give opportunities to others.

Making the most of an opportunity

I now want to do the best I can with this opportunity that has been given to me. If you work hard to get an opportunity and then don’t make the most of it, then was the hard work worth it? I have got no clue where this latest opportunity will take me but I am excited to see where it does. That’s the thing with opportunities, sometimes you don’t know where they are going to take you but for many the journey itself is exciting enough and you never know what further opportunities this one opportunity may lead to.

So people its time to start enjoying hard work and its time to get yourself ready for the opportunities that may come your way. Don’t go in to everything expecting an opportunity to come your way but be ready for any that do. If opportunities don’t come your way then its time to start thinking of taking your hard work and investing it in something else that gets you closer to the opportunities you would like in life. The opportunities are out there and ready for those that want to take them.

There is an ace in there somewhere


One of my favourite analogies about opportunities in life that I have ever heard is this:

“Life is like a deck of playing cards, there are 4 aces in a deck, you may just have to turn over 48 before you find one.”

Don’t get annoyed

This has stuck with me through life and is one of my mantras. Whenever I try something and it doesn’t work, I try not to get annoyed about it and instead just think that I am one move closer to finding my ace, which will be my success.

I think people give up too easy in life sometimes. The thing they want to achieve maybe achievable and about to happen but because they stopped turning over cards they didn’t get any closer. The amount of times you fail has no bearing on whether you will be successful or not, if that success is out there to be had, it is out there and the only way you will miss out on it is by giving up.

One more try

I don’t want to be the person in life that would have achieved something, if only I had given something one more try.

I think the aces and life analogy is true for so many things in life. You can apply this to job hunting, building business, dating, making friends, house viewing etc. etc. etc. Some people are lucky and they turn over an ace at the first attempt but it doesn’t mean they are any more or less deserving than you to achieve something. Everyone’s route is different but the success remains the same and that is the most important thing of life’s journey.

Different routes

By not turning over an ace on your first attempt, it forces you to try different things and go in different directions. This process of turning over cards can make you so much more informed and experienced, than if you were to get it right away. What you learn on this journey can help you appreciate the ace even more when you have it in your hand. It can also give you the ability to hold on to it for longer and to go on the hunt for more aces.

In life the deck of cards you get played isn’t what’s important, but how you play them is. Finding the aces isn’t always going to be easy, but there is no such thing as magic and the only way to find them is by working hard and never giving up. The other 48 cards in the deck are there to test you, but it’s important that you don’t let them beat you. Learn something from every card and move on.

Sometimes life doesn’t play you the hand you want or expect, so be prepared. In life we have to expect the unexpected at times and be ready to find the solution that will keep us moving forward. You decide where you move forward to in life, if you get blinded by the prettiness of the queen and stop there, you will never reach your full potential.

Everyone can Support Someone

I think there is one thing that so many of us are all capable of that can change the world. That one thing is supporting someone. We can all do things in our own right and by our own hands to change the world, but we can do more and make more change by supporting others.

Someone’s dreams can be made or broken by the support of just one person. When you are trying to achieve something and your passion, commitment and determination are being tested, it can just take one supporting word from another to keep you going.

When someone supports something you are doing it can make it all feel worthwhile. Support can make you push even harder to achieve something, it can raise your conviction and let you know what you are doing is good, is wanted, is needed.

I think too often we break each other down or question each other’s motives, instead of showing them support. You may never know how someone is feeling or the pureness of their heart, but I would rather give them the benefit of the doubt and try to help, than to let their dreams fall to pieces.

Supporting someone can take many forms. It can be buying something somebody is selling, promoting them on your social media feed, giving them words of encouragement, giving them ideas, putting them in touch with someone else who can help, giving them financial support and the list goes on.

There are many things you can do to support others, which will cost you nothing and not impact your day-to-day life in any negative way. To give support costs nothing but to receive it is priceless. Your support can be all it takes for something big to happen in this world, never under estimate the power of it.

Last week I received some amazing support for my book project after having a fair few doors slammed in my face, but it was that one piece of support that meant more than those many slammed doors. That is how powerful support can be, it can outweigh any amount of negativity.

Lets be a world that supports each other and sees real amazing change happen in our lifetime.

Dreaming of success

If you’re anything like me, you dream about success. When there is something big that has the potential to happen you immediately start thinking of what life would be like if it did happen. No longer are you thinking of how to achieve it as you now have made your mind up that’s it going to happen and that is what life is going to be like.

I think the most common time people act like this is when they have brought a lottery ticket, are applying for a new job, auditioning for a role or starting a new business venture. I am not one of those people that sign up to the ‘life is about the journey not the destination’ way of thinking, I very much think that life is about the destination but you shouldn’t be thinking about the destination before you get there.

Long-term success

Getting the long-term success you crave is based on being successful at every step and turn on the way. It’s only when we get to our destination that the journey starts to matter less. To achieve that long-term success, you need to be present in every situation, daydreaming about it today will make it less of a reality tomorrow. You have to know that there are other people out there that want the same things as you do that are willing to focus on those small steps and do the hard work, so you have to be prepared to as well.

For many people success is about being wealthy. If you want to be wealthy your goal should be to do something that generates wealth, it’s a small change but if you are willing to change your thinking I think you will be more likely to succeed. Success in life isn’t always about having the biggest dream but it is more often or not about being willing and able to work harder than anyone else to achieve something.

Focus

I think the reason why so many people give up on their dream or don’t achieve their dream is because people spent too much time dreaming without focusing on their reasons for that dream and their passion for that dream. It is too easy to get lost in the world of dreaming and it is a very dangerous world, as it stops us from achieving what is possible. It’s important to keep reminding ourselves what is important to us and why it is important.

Another time when we can tend to get carried away with ourselves is when someone tells us that there might be a chance of something happening. This can be when a friend says that you should go and do something together or when your boss tells you there may be a work trip coming up or the possibility of a pay rise. We all need to get better at not getting carried away when we hear these things, as just because someone wants to do something or thinks something is going to happen, it doesn’t mean that it will.

If you do get carried away with an idea it only makes you feel worse when it doesn’t happen. Never get sucked in to thinking something will happen before it actually has. We can’t afford to be a complacent generation. There are so many things in life we can’t control that happen around us but there is so much we can control that goes on inside of us.

Having dreams is good but I think dreaming of what life will be like when you achieve that dream can be bad as those things aren’t your dream, they are just things that could happen if you achieve your dream but won’t happen if you don’t achieve your dream. The more you think about life after achieving your dream the more you have to lose.

Don’t get carried away

It’s hard to do, but we need to stop ourselves from getting too carried away. I know I have dreamed of many things in my life and automatically jumped to what life will be like if I achieve those things. I have done this over and over again, but this year will be different as I have goals and I am going to try and spend my time succeeding on those small steps that will make up the journey. Taking them one by one and at each one waiting until I succeed until I take the next step.

Don’t set yourself up to fail, set yourself up to succeed.!

Taking pride and not shame

Over the last year I have noticed even more than before, that people are really starting to invest in themselves and are feeling strong enough to share it with the world. Things that people wouldn’t have talked about as much in the past, are now things people feel proud to share. With the rise in social media it is ‘Trolling’ that grabs the headlines but I think amongst friends, social media has been a key tool for people to feel good about themselves and get support.

In the UK we have clubs like ‘Weight Watchers’ and ‘Slimming World’ that people can join in an effort to get their weight down and get fitter.

http://www.slimmingworld.com/

http://www.weightwatchers.co.uk/index.aspx

These clubs have been around for years, but one thing I have noticed this year, is that many people are sharing on social media that they are going and after they go they are updating their social media platforms with a status or a photo of their success. These updates then tend to get a lot of likes and positive comments from people they are connected with.

Support

I think the more we can do to support people who want to improve themselves, the better. That kind word or that like may be all that person needs to start something or to keep going. Lets try and not scroll past updates about people wanting to improve themselves, lets get behind them, it takes all but a few seconds to do and could make a lifetime of difference for that person.

If someone you know is trying a new skill lets encourage those first efforts. If someone is taking a cooking class or a pottery class, lets praise their first efforts regardless of what they look or taste like. If someone you know is taking a course to help them find employment, lets take the time to motivate them to keep going when the course is getting hard and exams are looming.

If you have a friend that is starting a creative project like making music, making art or writing a blog, lets support them with viewing or listening to their project and sharing it with your friends. In these ventures the best way to help them is to help increase the size of their audience and spread the word.

The power of a kind word

Just never underestimate the power that your words and actions have on other people. That email, that text, that post can all make a difference. I have found in life that if you support others, others will support you and you will find yourself in a more supportive group of friends and acquaintances.

Sharing in the success of others is a very uplifting thing to do. Doing this can help make you feel happier and can spur you on to try and achieve things in your own life. The only way we can achieve more and to achieve better is by trying and that is the thing we need to be applauding. Lets forget about the end goal for a minute and what might happen later, as nothing will ever happen if we never try.

We need to encourage as many people as possible to try things and then once we’ve done this, we then need to encourage people to keep on trying and to try other things. If someone tries something once they might not succeed but if he or she keeps on trying they will increase their chance of success by a massive percentage.

Combating ‘Trolling’

The best way to combat ‘Trolling’ is building people up and not breaking them down. Before anyone has the chance to say something negative about someone or what he or she is doing, get in there first with a positive comment.

It is hard not to worry about what other people are going to say when you try to do something, but you have to keep remembering why you want to do it and what you want to achieve. It is important that we don’t let the words of people that don’t want you to succeed, dictate how your life is going to play out, because if we stop trying after the first negative word we may never try again.

Always remember there is no shame in trying to improve yourself, your situation and the world around you.

Planning for When Success Isn’t Instant

As human beings I think we are all inspired by something we see or hear at some point in our lives. It can be anything from a preach at your local church to a film you saw at the cinema. The words and or pictures encourage you to chase your dream, give you a dream or put a cause on your heart that you want to stand up and fight for. You leave the place saying to yourself that you are going to do be the one that makes it happen.

The problem then comes when it gets a bit tricky to do what you want to do and you aren’t as successful right away as you thought you would be. Time goes on and distractions have entered your life which clog up the time you have in your day to chase your dreams. The memory of what you heard or saw that inspired you is starting to feel a bit faded and before you know it you have given up or forgotten about it.

I think the most important thing to do when you are inspired by something is make a plan, one that doesn’t involve instant success. To be successful you need to be passionate about something but sadly being passionate doesn’t always mean you will be successful, so this is why a plan is so important.

In the plan can you set aside an amount of time a day to pursue your dream? Just one thing to remember is to make it a realistic amount of time that you know you can quite easily give over to the pursuit. Can you surround yourself with people who are chasing the same dream as you or are as passionate about chasing their dream, as you are yours? Can you get a copy of that preach or film? So that you can remind yourself of why you are so passionate about it?

I think instant success is a myth and a myth that stops many people achieving what they could if they just stuck at it. Most of the truly successful people in life didn’t have overnight success, most had a plan and kept to it. You show up to work everyday, because you have to. You show up everyday for school, because you have to. You need to get in the mindset that you keep to your plan, because you have to. Plans maybe boring but success never is.