Treasuring moments in life

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Life can move at a pretty fast pace at times, if you couple this with the throwaway nature of todays society, it means that many amazing moments in life are too quickly forgotten and lost.

Feeling Valued

Yesterday I had a moment I want to treasure and hold on to. Yesterday in the mail I received a copy of ‘the Journal of Dementia Care’ one of the leading publications for dementia care professionals in the UK. In said journal there was an article by me that they had published. To get that recognition, to know that they valued my voice and my words to put me in it, was an incredible feeling and to be in a publication featuring articles from many professionals and big organisations in the field of dementia, was just mind blowing.

It got me thinking about the moments in my life recently that I want to treasure forever, like my daughter learning to pull herself up to her feet, or listening to my wife sing. I am so fortunate in my life to have so many moments I want to treasure, that I don’t want to forget them or take them for granted, as I know it is not the same for everyone.

Moments that are big to you

It is also important to not just treasure the big moments but the moments that are big to you. The moments that put a smile on your face and really bring joy to your heart, regardless of what they are, we need to live in a world where we have no shame in being proud of what we are proud of, not a world where we are made to feel little or less amazing than the next person because we choose to treasure different things.

A moment to treasure can get you through a tough day, tough week or tough year. The power of a moment to treasure is something, which we need to value and appreciate. These special moments can motivate you on to even bigger and better things in your life if you to choose to use them.

The good moments in life are the ones that give you hope in the bad times and make this life worthwhile. I am already excited for my next one and to when I can start looking back at all of them in later life, remembering the rich life experience I have had.

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On the verge of giving up

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Have you ever felt on the verge of giving something up? Ever had those moments in life where you can’t seem to get anywhere no matter how hard you try? Moments where you have invested so much time and energy, moments where you think you have tried attacking the problem from every angle imaginable? I have had some of these recently.

In all of these situations, I have chosen not to give up. The simplest thing anyone can use and that anyone can have is persistence; you would be surprised how far persistence can get you. Sometimes in life the way to win the battle, is to just be more persistent than anyone else. It takes a brave person to be persistent but a lot of the time it can pay off.

A different approach needed

It can seem like the world is against you at times and people don’t want you to get to where you want to get. A lot of the time I can tell you that actually no one is against you. Sometimes it’s just a bit more waiting, a bit more effort or a different approach that is needed.

If you have something you want to achieve, don’t stop until you have achieved it. If the thing you wanted to achieve means something to you, it is worth the time, the stress and all the hard work. Don’t let how far away your goal seems, do anything to diminish the hunger you have to achieve it. Hunger can eat up any distance.

Confidence

It’s important not to give up in the small areas of life as it gives us renewed confidence with the bigger areas. It’s like I will continually search for the cheapest way of getting things or to get reductions in cost of contracts I have, it may take me a while and sometimes it seems like I’m getting nowhere but eventually I normally do find the best deal and a better deal for me and my family. The victories I have here give me the belief to fight for the bigger things in life, the belief to get me and my family where I want us to be.

So if you are on the verge of giving up just think to yourself – what is a bit more effort? Compared to the feeling of not accomplishing what you set out to accomplish? Make today the day of not giving up and the day of continuing our journeys.

2016 the year of living intentionally

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In our house over the last six months the big world has been ‘intentionally.’ Intentionally is the way we want to live our life and spend our time. We started at the back end of 2015 trying to live more intentionally but now for 2016 we want this to be a whole year of living intentionally.

In the last week of 2015 we thought about and wrote up our 2016 list of intentions. Our intentions aren’t like resolutions with very specific outcomes or all about self-improvement. Our intentions are a guide to how we want to live our life and put up there so we don’t forget what we want out of life. All of our intentions are things we can control and aren’t reliant on anyone or anything else.

Purpose

To us living intentionally is about doing things with purpose and when we are doing things, making sure that we have the reasons for why we are doing something etched firmly in our minds. This is even more important to us now with a baby to look after. Her development and growth is so important to us that we want to make sure that everything we do is helping her and that time isn’t wasted.

We don’t want to live life without a plan any more. We want to have targets and reach them. My wife and I have always been big fans of plans. We would take joy in planning the schedule and timetable for weekends and holidays but this is something bigger and different. Our plans now aren’t about minutes and hours; they are about life and are applicable to everyday of the year. We don’t want to be better some days of the year; we want to be better everyday of the year.

Committed

We would often find ourselves getting annoyed or frustrated when we hadn’t achieved what we wanted from a day, failed to reach a target or just felt like we had wasted time. We have always had goals and still do, but now by living intentionally they feel achievable and I know if we keep committed to this way of life we will achieve them.

Our list is filled with things to help TeamSibley as a whole and the individual members of it have better days, to grow as individuals and as a group, to help our mental and emotional wellbeing and most importantly things to make life fun. I am a true believer that if you make life fun, life becomes easier and although living intentionally requires thought and work, it will make life more fun, so it will be so much easier. With our way of life all our energy will be invested in moving forward and we will have to invest less in the emotional strain of when things aren’t going the way we wanted them to.

I hope others will take on the challenge this year of living their life intentionally, as I truly believe that it will change our lives for the better.

Rested and recharged

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In the UK, many of us this weekend just gone, will have been enjoying 3 days off work for the Bank Holiday weekend. Weekends for me normally go way too fast and before I know it I am back at work again but that extra day makes all the difference when we get a Bank Holiday weekend. Instead of feeling like I haven’t really had a break, I will go back to work this week a bit more rested and happy in the knowledge that only a 4-day week lies ahead of me.

Scared of taking a break

In today’s world there seems to be many in our society that are on the go 24/7. People who are constantly chasing success, constantly trying to achieve something or make something happen. Many people out there seem to be scared of stopping and taking a break and many that think success is all about being busy or being seen to be busy.

I wouldn’t want to do business with someone that is too scared to rest. To me if someone is too scared to rest they are scared of losing things and I would rather do business with people who aren’t scared of losing things, but who want to achieve something.

Lazy is an opinion

I think we as a society need to stop looking at people who rest as lazy. Yes there are lazy people in this world, but they are only lazy in your opinion. If it is someone’s goal just to have the most peaceful and restful life they can, what is wrong with that? If you want to be a busy person that is your decision, don’t think that everyone else should be or look down on others who aren’t as busy as you.

To me the only sure fire way to long-term success is to rest well. Having the ability to rest properly enables us to make the most of our awake time. These last few weeks my wife and I have been watching the World Athletics Championships and the thing that strikes me is that those who are on top of their game are the ones who know the importance of rest and looking after their body. Yes these athletes train harder than anyone else in their field, but they wouldn’t be able to do this without their rest, as it is the rest that restores and repairs them to go again the next day.

Making the right decisions

One of the main factors of success is making the right decisions and I always find that the best decisions are made when you are thinking clearly, I don’t think many great decisions get made when you are tired. Tiredness I find stops me from thinking clearly or thinking before I speak. I want to make sure in life that I make great decisions all the time, as it only takes a few bad ones to send you down a path that you don’t want to go and that isn’t the best for you.

So the two things I always want to do in life are, know what I want to achieve and to do it in the best and healthiest way properly. The key to this I think is resting well.

There is an ace in there somewhere

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One of my favourite analogies about opportunities in life that I have ever heard is this:

“Life is like a deck of playing cards, there are 4 aces in a deck, you may just have to turn over 48 before you find one.”

Don’t get annoyed

This has stuck with me through life and is one of my mantras. Whenever I try something and it doesn’t work, I try not to get annoyed about it and instead just think that I am one move closer to finding my ace, which will be my success.

I think people give up too easy in life sometimes. The thing they want to achieve maybe achievable and about to happen but because they stopped turning over cards they didn’t get any closer. The amount of times you fail has no bearing on whether you will be successful or not, if that success is out there to be had, it is out there and the only way you will miss out on it is by giving up.

One more try

I don’t want to be the person in life that would have achieved something, if only I had given something one more try.

I think the aces and life analogy is true for so many things in life. You can apply this to job hunting, building business, dating, making friends, house viewing etc. etc. etc. Some people are lucky and they turn over an ace at the first attempt but it doesn’t mean they are any more or less deserving than you to achieve something. Everyone’s route is different but the success remains the same and that is the most important thing of life’s journey.

Different routes

By not turning over an ace on your first attempt, it forces you to try different things and go in different directions. This process of turning over cards can make you so much more informed and experienced, than if you were to get it right away. What you learn on this journey can help you appreciate the ace even more when you have it in your hand. It can also give you the ability to hold on to it for longer and to go on the hunt for more aces.

In life the deck of cards you get played isn’t what’s important, but how you play them is. Finding the aces isn’t always going to be easy, but there is no such thing as magic and the only way to find them is by working hard and never giving up. The other 48 cards in the deck are there to test you, but it’s important that you don’t let them beat you. Learn something from every card and move on.

Sometimes life doesn’t play you the hand you want or expect, so be prepared. In life we have to expect the unexpected at times and be ready to find the solution that will keep us moving forward. You decide where you move forward to in life, if you get blinded by the prettiness of the queen and stop there, you will never reach your full potential.

30-Minute Burst Challenge

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Last week I blogged about getting out in the garden and doing some gardening because of the lovely weather we are experiencing, here in the south west of England:

https://adamsibley.wordpress.com/2015/04/15/the-sun-is-here/

Our back garden is quite big and in the back we have two areas that need a lot of love, the front garden is small, but again there are two flower beds that really need some attention. Since my last blog about gardening my wife and I have been out in the gardens keeping up the commitment, in the hope to see them one day looking good and becoming easy to manage.

I tend to go out in the garden and work in 30-minute bursts. I do this because I am a believer in quality over quantity. I believe working at things in this fashion is the best way and is how I attack many projects in life.

If I go out and spend 2 hours in the garden, many things will happen. The first thing is – I will get tired. When you get tired that normally leads to many things happening, like putting less effort in, liking the job less and being much less likely to want to go out and do more tomorrow. With working in 30-minute bursts I don’t get bored, I don’t get tired and at the end I always want to do more.

I would much rather keep hold of that feeling of wanting to do more when I come in over that of wishing I had stopped earlier. I think you will get more done in 4 30-minute bursts than you would in a 2-hour session. If you are going to put the hard work in, you should want to get the maximum reward for it.

Another thing I do is I don’t set myself targets of what I want to achieve when it comes to gardening. I think if you set yourself goals and you’re like me, you will want to achieve them and by doing this you end up rushing and not doing a thorough job. Sometimes (especially with weeding at the moment) jobs take you longer than you expected and if you set yourself a goal you would either be disheartened that you didn’t achieve it, or annoyed with yourself that you didn’t do a thorough job.

I haven’t set myself an end date for when I want the garden complete, but I know I am going to keep working at it until that day comes, because of the manageable system my wife and I have. By doing 30-minutes a day I don’t resent it, it doesn’t tire me out and I can fit it in to most evenings, without affecting anything else we have planned to do.

I would encourage everyone to take up the 30-minute burst challenge and see how it helps you to achieve something that you have been trying to achieve this year.

Everyone can Support Someone

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I think there is one thing that so many of us are all capable of that can change the world. That one thing is supporting someone. We can all do things in our own right and by our own hands to change the world, but we can do more and make more change by supporting others.

Someone’s dreams can be made or broken by the support of just one person. When you are trying to achieve something and your passion, commitment and determination are being tested, it can just take one supporting word from another to keep you going.

When someone supports something you are doing it can make it all feel worthwhile. Support can make you push even harder to achieve something, it can raise your conviction and let you know what you are doing is good, is wanted, is needed.

I think too often we break each other down or question each other’s motives, instead of showing them support. You may never know how someone is feeling or the pureness of their heart, but I would rather give them the benefit of the doubt and try to help, than to let their dreams fall to pieces.

Supporting someone can take many forms. It can be buying something somebody is selling, promoting them on your social media feed, giving them words of encouragement, giving them ideas, putting them in touch with someone else who can help, giving them financial support and the list goes on.

There are many things you can do to support others, which will cost you nothing and not impact your day-to-day life in any negative way. To give support costs nothing but to receive it is priceless. Your support can be all it takes for something big to happen in this world, never under estimate the power of it.

Last week I received some amazing support for my book project after having a fair few doors slammed in my face, but it was that one piece of support that meant more than those many slammed doors. That is how powerful support can be, it can outweigh any amount of negativity.

Lets be a world that supports each other and sees real amazing change happen in our lifetime.